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Some Things You May Not Know About Substance Abuse, Part 8: Positive reinforcement is not enough to motivate a person to stop using

Posted on October 2, 2015 by

Positive reinforcement is not enough to motivate a person to stop using drugs You’re a good parent, a loving spouse, a decent boss, a fair judge, a caring therapist. You took psychology in college. You learned that positive reinforcement is … Continue reading →

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Some Things You May Not Know About Substance Abuse, Part 7: In the beginning of recovery, it doesn’t matter if you are self motivated. It just matters that you have motivation

Posted on September 25, 2015 by

In the beginning of recovery, it doesn’t matter if you are self motivated. It just matters that you have motivation Most people believe that internal or self motivation is the best kind of motivation and that people who are motivated … Continue reading →

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Take out the Garbage

Posted on July 31, 2015 by

I once facilitated a group for people recovering from severe mental illnesses. We met once a week and they talked about how things were going for them. They tried to support each other. One day a man came in and … Continue reading →

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The Shrink’s Links: Neutral Ground

Posted on July 27, 2015 by

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Neutral Ground is a non-sectarian non-profit peer support organization for people who are divorced, widowed, separated, or ending a significant relationship. Click here to go to their website

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The Broken Window Theory of Personal Relationships

Posted on July 10, 2015 by

Go to any down-in-the-heels, crime-ridden, poverty-stricken inner city and you are certain to find one thing. Lots and lots of broken windows. Most of these broken windows will be in abandoned buildings, where no one appears to care and no … Continue reading →

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Marriage Rights for Singles: The Buddy System

Posted on June 26, 2015 by

We live in remarkable times. For decades, heterosexuals have been fleeing the institution of marriage; first, by divorcing in great numbers, then, by living together outside of marriage and by delaying it to later in life. At the same time, … Continue reading →

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The Shrink’s Links: Surviving Divorce

Posted on June 15, 2015 by

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. If you’re going through a divorce, or would like to avoid one, this website has a lot of resources for you. Click here to find a meeting in your area.

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When Madness Takes Cover

Posted on May 8, 2015 by

So, you’ve stopped drinking, or drugging, or gambling, or sleeping around. Your depression seems to have lifted. You haven’t been violent. Your anxiety no longer makes all the decisions. You’re up in the morning and dressed when you need to … Continue reading →

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Listen to your Lookout

Posted on May 1, 2015 by

When the wheels start to come off, everyone has their own kind of madness. Some use substances, others get controlling, others depressed or anxious; some have a combination of several methods of madness; whatever. Your own type of madness was … Continue reading →

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What if relationships were like Calvinball?

Posted on March 27, 2015 by

If the traditional forms of relationship are not working for you, and you need a role model; you don’t need to go far to find one. You only need to read some old funny pages. There you will find a … Continue reading →

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A New Lease on your Relationship: Money

Posted on March 20, 2015 by

No relationship can go on for long before the couple has to work out what to do about money. Even at the dating stage there’s that awkward moment when you first fight over the check at the restaurant. Couples didn’t … Continue reading →

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A New Lease on your Relationship: Space

Posted on March 13, 2015 by

Here’s a surprising bit of science: studies show that married couples who live apart have the same levels of satisfaction as those who live together. Here’s another: it’s a growing trend; especially, it seems, in Britain, where ten percent of … Continue reading →

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