Category Archives: Trauma

How to Re-Traumatize Yourself

First, a bad thing happens. Rape, murder, combat, abuse. You don’t have a lot of control over it. That’s the point. Something happens way, way out of your control. You barely make it. Now you’re left with the memories. That’s … Continue reading

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When Madness Takes Cover

So, you’ve stopped drinking, or drugging, or gambling, or sleeping around. Your depression seems to have lifted. You haven’t been violent. Your anxiety no longer makes all the decisions. You’re up in the morning and dressed when you need to … Continue reading

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Cook the Negativity

You learn a lot quicker from negative experiences than you do from positive ones. The stick is more damaging than the carrot is enticing. There’s a good reason for that. If you get whacked hard enough by the stick, it … Continue reading

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What is Madness?

Someone asked why the name of this blog is Madness 101. Shouldn’t I call it Mental Illness 101? Isn’t mental illness the proper, politically correct term? It is, but it’s not really mental illness that I’m writing about. I’m writing … Continue reading

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The Shrink’s Links: The Evil Hours

We are born in debt, owing the world a death. This is the shadow that darkens every cradle. Trauma is what happens when you catch a surprise glimpse of that darkness, the coming annihilation not only of the body and … Continue reading

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The Shrink’s Links: Sam Baker

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. This week’s shrink’s link is to a musician: Sam Baker Baker was in a train in Peru when a terrorist’s bomb blew it up. What followed was years of recovery. If … Continue reading

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The Shrink’s Links: Cure Together

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Cure Together Here’s an interesting idea. Get a bunch of people together that have the same condition and have them report … Continue reading

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The Shrink’s Links: Still I Rise

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Still I Rise Feeling oppressed? Recite this poem to yourself and you’ll feel ready to take it on, anyway. Good for … Continue reading

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What Anger Says

For a few weeks recently, I helped a friend facilitate a therapy group for perpetrators of domestic violence. The group was made up of men who had gotten in trouble with the law and were ordered by the court to … Continue reading

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Grounding

So, you’re anxious. It happens. There are basically two things to do with anxiety. You can face it or avoid it. Avoiding it is often the sensible thing to do if it’s a thing you are not likely to encounter … Continue reading

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New Class: Madness 101- Trauma

On Tuesday, March 26th at 6:30-8:30 pm I will be teaching a class at the new Rochester Brainery, Madness 101. I hope this to be a series, starting with, The Trauma Drama – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. But you only … Continue reading

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Understanding the Trauma Drama, part 2: Hot Stove

Let’s start with instincts. We don’t have the same kind of instincts that animals have. We have some we are born with, like sucking for milk and preferring to look at  human faces; but, for the most part, we learn … Continue reading

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