Category Archives: Relationships

The Shrink’s Links: Surviving Infidelity

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. There are few experiences as painful and as confusing as learning your partner has been unfaithful. Was it him, her, or you? Do you stay together or split? What do you … Continue reading

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Some Things You May Not Know About Substance Abuse, Part 8: Positive reinforcement is not enough to motivate a person to stop using

Positive reinforcement is not enough to motivate a person to stop using drugs You’re a good parent, a loving spouse, a decent boss, a fair judge, a caring therapist. You took psychology in college. You learned that positive reinforcement is … Continue reading

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Taming the Pumpkin, or, How to Influence People without Getting Wacked

Once upon a time a traveler hiked down from the mountains into a remote valley to find all the farmers there in a panic. They were running from their vegetable garden into their village, screaming. The women clutched their children … Continue reading

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Take out the Garbage

I once facilitated a group for people recovering from severe mental illnesses. We met once a week and they talked about how things were going for them. They tried to support each other. One day a man came in and … Continue reading

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The Broken Window Theory of Personal Relationships

Go to any down-in-the-heels, crime-ridden, poverty-stricken inner city and you are certain to find one thing. Lots and lots of broken windows. Most of these broken windows will be in abandoned buildings, where no one appears to care and no … Continue reading

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Marriage Rights for Singles: The Buddy System

We live in remarkable times. For decades, heterosexuals have been fleeing the institution of marriage; first, by divorcing in great numbers, then, by living together outside of marriage and by delaying it to later in life. At the same time, … Continue reading

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The Shrink’s Links: Surviving Divorce

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. If you’re going through a divorce, or would like to avoid one, this website has a lot of resources for you. Click here to find a meeting in your area.

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When Madness Takes Cover

So, you’ve stopped drinking, or drugging, or gambling, or sleeping around. Your depression seems to have lifted. You haven’t been violent. Your anxiety no longer makes all the decisions. You’re up in the morning and dressed when you need to … Continue reading

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Listen to your Lookout

When the wheels start to come off, everyone has their own kind of madness. Some use substances, others get controlling, others depressed or anxious; some have a combination of several methods of madness; whatever. Your own type of madness was … Continue reading

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What if relationships were like Calvinball?

If the traditional forms of relationship are not working for you, and you need a role model; you don’t need to go far to find one. You only need to read some old funny pages. There you will find a … Continue reading

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A New Lease on your Relationship: Money

No relationship can go on for long before the couple has to work out what to do about money. Even at the dating stage there’s that awkward moment when you first fight over the check at the restaurant. Couples didn’t … Continue reading

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A New Lease on your Relationship: Space

Here’s a surprising bit of science: studies show that married couples who live apart have the same levels of satisfaction as those who live together. Here’s another: it’s a growing trend; especially, it seems, in Britain, where ten percent of … Continue reading

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