Category Archives: Marriage

Relationships, part 69: A New Lease on your Relationship

If you leased out a portion of your life, what would the terms and conditions be? You own an apartment building with an almost infinite number of apartments, but, once someone moves in, you can never evict them, and they … Continue reading

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Relationships, part 68: The Problem with Talking About Love

When you were a baby and became uncomfortable, you didn’t know what you wanted. You could scream, but you had no words to describe what was going on with you or what would change it. Your parents didn’t either. They … Continue reading

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Relationships, part 67: How Do I Love Thee, Let me Count the Ways

What do you mean when you say I love you? The word love can be used to cover a multitude of sentiments. There is tremendous variety among those who march under the banner of love, from the most selfless angels … Continue reading

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Part 66: Relationships are Eternal

Once you are in a relationship with someone, you will always be in a relationship with that person. It’s like the Hotel California, you can never leave. I don’t care if you never speak to her again, if you move … Continue reading

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The Shrink’s Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

  Bringing you the best of mental health every week. I picked up Should I Stay or Should I Go? hoping that I might find an algorithm for divorce or reconciliation, some kind of formula in which one could plug … Continue reading

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Relationships, part 65: Can It, Should It, Be Saved?

Should you be in this relationship to begin with? Related questions are: Is it worth it to work so hard to save a relationship? Aren’t some beyond help? Might it be better to scrap it and start over somewhere else? … Continue reading

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When Illness Takes Cover

  Your partner has stopped drinking, or drugging, or gambling, or whoring around, or whatever. Her depression seems to have lifted. His anxiety no longer makes all the decisions. She’s up in the morning and dressed when she needs to … Continue reading

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When Illness Takes Over: How to be a Sentry

  When illness takes over a relationship, it takes hard work to eradicate the intruder and eternal vigilance to keep it away. Relapse can be expected. When we are talking about addiction, it takes an average of seven real attempts … Continue reading

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Relationships, Part 62: When Illness Take Over: What Walking Can Teach Us about Relationships

Stand with your feet comfortably together. If you’re going to walk, what do you do? You take one foot and put it forward until you throw yourself off balance. Then, when you’re ready to fall on your face, at the … Continue reading

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Relationships, Part 61: When Illness Take Over: Put On your Own Oxygen Mask Before Helping Anyone Else

You’ve heard it. You’ve been on airplanes when they go over the safety procedures. They always say put your own oxygen mask on before helping anyone else. I’ve never been in a situation in which the oxygen masks are needed, … Continue reading

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Relationships, Part 60: When Illness Take Over: Create Illness-Free Zones.

If illness has taken over your relationship, there’s plenty that you can do, other than succumb to its evil yourself. Just because your boyfriend wants to get piss-drunk every time you go out, doesn’t mean you have to clean him … Continue reading

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Relationships, Part 59, When Illness Takes Over: Calibrating your Compass

Take a perfectly functional compass and put it in a room with an electromagnet and it will forget which way is north. It’ll point to the magnet because the magnet is exerting a force that it cannot ignore, far more … Continue reading

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